Follows you and frequently shows up uninvited. Makes prank phone calls. Spreads rumors. Tries to have contact after you have ended the relationship.

Tries to intimidate you by smashing things, yelling, driving recklessly, or with looks or gestures. Threatens to get you in trouble with family, friends or school.

Reads your notes to or from other people. Goes through your purse, locker or book bag without permission. Forces unwanted intimacy. Refuses to stop "wrestling" when asked.

Threatens to harm you, your friends or family. Threatens suicide if you leave him/her or don't do what he/she wants. Threatens to break up with you.

Acts like he is the boss and what he says, goes. Tells you that men make all the decisions. Demands that you get his permission to go somewhere or do something.

Wants to control what you wear and how you look. Pressures you to use cigarettes, alcohol or drugs. Wants to make all the decisions in the relationship.

Calls you names privately or in front of others. Puts down or makes fun of your race, religion, class or family. Inappropriately grabs you or shows off your personal items in public.

Pressures you to choose between him and your friends or family. Pressures you to quit your extracurricular activities or anything you do without him.